Randy Kessler Joins Good Day Atlanta to Discuss The Meno-Divorce Trend
On Good Day Atlanta, celebrity divorce attorney Randy Kessler discussed the rise of “meno divorces,” where women in their 50s and older increasingly choose divorce as they reevaluate life during and after menopause. While he noted menopause isn’t always the cause, Kessler explained that it often sparks reflection on happiness, intimacy, and companionship. He emphasized communication as the key to preserving relationships and shared that, in some cases, couples even reconcile after divorce — as seen in the public remarriage of Nene Leakes.
FAQs About Meno Divorces
Q. Do you see and handle MenoDivorce?
A. I see it all. But yes, we do have a significant number of mature, older folks divorcing, and many more than we did when I started practicing family law almost 40 years ago.
Q. Do you attribute it to menopause?
A. Well, I’m certainly no expert on menopause, but I do think there may be more factors than that. Older women, and older men, have lots of other things in common that may lead to divorce. Many have just become empty nesters and their feeling of a need to “keep the family together” for the sake of the kids is no longer as crucial to them. Many begin to realize their spouse is who they are growing old with, and realize their spouse is not who they want to be with in the upcoming golden years.
Q. Is the lack of romance part of it?
A. Absolutely. And as we get older, romance is different for many. Many tell me they don’t miss the sex, but they miss the tenderness, the hand-holding, and the cuddling. Now there are CPAP masks, different bedrooms, and sometimes completely opposite nighttime hours (one is in bed by 9 and up by 5, while the other goes to bed at 2 a.m. and sleeps until noon).
Q. Are there other variations of the MenoDivorce?
A. I guess you could say it’s similar to “gray divorce,” “silver divorce,” and “middle age crazy.” But to me, the bottom line is that whenever someone gets to the point where they are convinced they will be happier not being with their spouse, they call us. And with so many people waiting to get married until they are in their 30s and 40s, it only makes sense that today the 50-year-olds seeking divorce outnumber the 30-year-olds. There are just more of them. And with so many people waiting to get married until they are in their 30s and 40s, it only makes sense that today the 50-year-olds seeking divorce outnumber the 30-year-olds. There are just more of them.